Gentlemen,
First off, I have to say this forum and yourbrainonporn.com has shed immense light on something I have secretly hid from everyone. And has caused me many dating issues including PIED, lack of confidence, sex drive ....etc. We all know what porn has done.
Reason I started.....well I got kicked back in highschool. Kids thought it would be funny to watch someone fall to the ground in complete pain and utter embarrassment. Well from there lets just say I had some damage. Major damage. I went on with my life thinking it would just be a normal part of my life until I decided to get the scar tissue taken care of. After this I shut down. Totally afraid to use my "Men" because I didn't want to do anything to them after my procedure. I went to my Dr. and was told to watch porn and MO to get used to using the "Men" again. Well I became addicted for 4 years or better.
My issue currently that I am seeking help for is I recently started dating this girl unlike any other I've dated. We clicked on multiple topics, likes and wants. She's sporty, independant, witty, sarcastic in a good way, very cute and extremely upfront and honest. Well one night after dinner and a concert she came to my place and it got hot and heavy. I started out ok and quickly failed. I stopped in complete embarassment. I told her it wasn't her but me. I didn't have an explenation for her at all.She was hurt, confused and mad at the same time. She asked if it was her or if she did something. I said no and we both fell asleep. Lets just say the next few days were rough.
I went and got help. I spoke to a Dr. that said look up yourbrainonporn.com and read it all. I went home and instantly went on. Boom! I light went on in my head and a weight of several worlds fell off my shoulder. It was the porn not my "Men"!!!
I asked my GF to come over and talk that I had something to share with her. She came over and we talked about everything. From me being kicked to the porn to my issue in bed. I told her about what I had started "The Reboot". She understood and said she wanted me to be comfortable talking to her. Well she became quiet and kind of distant. Unlike how we were the previous few weeks up until my horrible failure of a night. So, last night I sat with her and just asked what's up!? She explained shes very confused and taken back by the whole thing. She didn't know what to think. I told her that this was all my fault and that I am fixing it. She said she has never experienced this and just didn't know what to think.
My question to any of you is, 1) Has anyone else been through this with their GF? 2) How can I help her understand so she doesn't run away?
I appreciate any and all help!
Best,
Kw
First off, I have to say this forum and yourbrainonporn.com has shed immense light on something I have secretly hid from everyone. And has caused me many dating issues including PIED, lack of confidence, sex drive ....etc. We all know what porn has done.
Reason I started.....well I got kicked back in highschool. Kids thought it would be funny to watch someone fall to the ground in complete pain and utter embarrassment. Well from there lets just say I had some damage. Major damage. I went on with my life thinking it would just be a normal part of my life until I decided to get the scar tissue taken care of. After this I shut down. Totally afraid to use my "Men" because I didn't want to do anything to them after my procedure. I went to my Dr. and was told to watch porn and MO to get used to using the "Men" again. Well I became addicted for 4 years or better.
My issue currently that I am seeking help for is I recently started dating this girl unlike any other I've dated. We clicked on multiple topics, likes and wants. She's sporty, independant, witty, sarcastic in a good way, very cute and extremely upfront and honest. Well one night after dinner and a concert she came to my place and it got hot and heavy. I started out ok and quickly failed. I stopped in complete embarassment. I told her it wasn't her but me. I didn't have an explenation for her at all.She was hurt, confused and mad at the same time. She asked if it was her or if she did something. I said no and we both fell asleep. Lets just say the next few days were rough.
I went and got help. I spoke to a Dr. that said look up yourbrainonporn.com and read it all. I went home and instantly went on. Boom! I light went on in my head and a weight of several worlds fell off my shoulder. It was the porn not my "Men"!!!
I asked my GF to come over and talk that I had something to share with her. She came over and we talked about everything. From me being kicked to the porn to my issue in bed. I told her about what I had started "The Reboot". She understood and said she wanted me to be comfortable talking to her. Well she became quiet and kind of distant. Unlike how we were the previous few weeks up until my horrible failure of a night. So, last night I sat with her and just asked what's up!? She explained shes very confused and taken back by the whole thing. She didn't know what to think. I told her that this was all my fault and that I am fixing it. She said she has never experienced this and just didn't know what to think.
My question to any of you is, 1) Has anyone else been through this with their GF? 2) How can I help her understand so she doesn't run away?
I appreciate any and all help!
Best,
Kw