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robby

Member
Hey everyone.

I recently turned 30 and I have PIED. I grew up in India in a very conservative religious family where sex before marriage was strictly forbidden. Even having a girlfriend or dating wasn't the culture. Most people in my culture get married through an arranged marriage. So I stayed virgin till my late 20's (something that's pretty common in my culture). I had a few girlfriends that my family didn't know about in my early 20's but all we did was make out. Girls I went out with wouldn't want to do anything beyond that and I respected that. Needless to say, porn was my only option. I started jerking off to explicit pictures by 12 but only started watching porn when I was 16. I was instantly hooked to it. Have been watching porn all these years, more so recently. I first discovered I had a problem when I had a girlfriend 2 years back and either I had a half-hard dick with her or couldn't hold my erection for long. We mostly just did oral stuff then (since she came from the same culture and didn't want to go all the way before marriage). I didn't realize the issue I had was due to porn at the time or I didn't want to acknowledge it. It happened again last year April when I wanted to have sex with a girl and couldn't get hard to perform the act. I started looking up for it and came across PIED online and realized I matched the profile. I have been trying to stop watching porn unsuccessfully since then. There was a time when I didn't watch porn for a month but then came back to it again after a heart break.

Last year, in November, I started seeing a girl. As a desperate measure I went to a urologist who prescribed me Sildenafil, which is similar to a viagra. I could get hard after taking that and had good sex a few times with her before we stopped seeing each other. Now I have been single and not really dating anyone since the pandemic started. I was already an introvert and this pandemic eliminated any chances of finding a girl. So out of desperation in the last few months, I found a provider for it and had sex a few times. I used the Sildenafil as before, however I observed, that I had to take at least 3 tablets to get a hard erection. Anything less, I still had a limp noodle and that scared me even more.

I want to stop taking it. I want to stop taking a provider help too. Now, I am determined more than ever to stop watching porn. This is is just day 2 for me but I am determined to go 90 days from now.

I have a few questions for the community here:

1. Do people with PIED still get a boner with a viagra? Have any of you guys tried it? And if taking a viagra does get you a boner, is the issue still PIED?
2. I have been watching porn mostly once a day. Are there any tips that you guys have while abstaining from porn? What do you do when you get the urge?
3. On average, how long does it take for a person in my situation to get over PIED?
4. What's the best help you guys got on this journey from someone? Counselling, therapy or like from someone.
5. Does just abstaining from porn help you guys overcome PIED? or are there additional things in the process that you have tried?
6. Does have real encounter with a woman help during this process or is it complete inactivity related to sex?


As I said I am determined this time to stop watching porn. And I am writing this journal so that I keep myself on that path.
 

Fappy

Respected Member
1. Do people with PIED still get a boner with a viagra? Have any of you guys tried it? And if taking a viagra does get you a boner, is the issue still PIED?
2. I have been watching porn mostly once a day. Are there any tips that you guys have while abstaining from porn? What do you do when you get the urge?
3. On average, how long does it take for a person in my situation to get over PIED?
4. What's the best help you guys got on this journey from someone? Counselling, therapy or like from someone.
5. Does just abstaining from porn help you guys overcome PIED? or are there additional things in the process that you have tried?
6. Does have real encounter with a woman help during this process or is it complete inactivity related to sex?

Hello Mate! Welcome to the forum!!
allow me to answer your questions one by one.
1. probably, bcause its a chemical. butt it wont do anything to help you long term. 
2. once a day, id say that pretty heavy porn abuse. stop now. things to control the urges are difficult, but you can do things to control the things that trigger those urges. if that makes sense... for example, avoiding erotic imagery on social media, youtube, etc etc. or some emotional triggers you may have such as lonliness. eliminate these triggers and you can eliminate the urges.
3. cant say, each person take a different amount of time. but, you WILL start to see benefits after a month or so.
4. the best help i got was from this forum!
5. abstaining from porn, porn substitutesand any form of artificial stimuli that you use to get yourself off with. thats the best and straightest way to recovery.
6. i found that real life encounters helped a great deal. these were encounters with my partner, though. so i cant reccomend casual sex or escpecially not visiiting a dirty prostitute.


 

robby

Member
Thanks for those answers.

Day 12 update - Have been following no PMO  strictly.

Have had the urge many times, but little things have helped like not taking the cellphone to the bathroom or avoiding watching explicit shows, movies or photos. I never have wet dreams so not expecting that to happen, but what's been concerning is I rarely have morning wood these days. Hoping that comes back. How was your experience when it comes to morning wood? Does that happen less too as a result of PIED??
 
Hey robby,

First, great job in keeping your protective barriers high. Only you can know what triggers you the most, and so you can think of a good strategy to counter them when the moment comes.

From my experience, yes morning wood and PIED are related. It does not mean that once you have morning woods back, you are 100% cured from PIED, but it is a step forward. It has been my experience that morning woods suddenly disappear after a relapse. After a couple days they slowly come back. I always take it as a good sign, but a very early one. I don't consider myself to be 'cured' just to have morning woods. The road to be healed, in my experience, is much longer.

Keep up the good work and my very best wishes in you recovery
 

robby

Member
recovery000 said:
Hey robby,

First, great job in keeping your protective barriers high. Only you can know what triggers you the most, and so you can think of a good strategy to counter them when the moment comes.

From my experience, yes morning wood and PIED are related. It does not mean that once you have morning woods back, you are 100% cured from PIED, but it is a step forward. It has been my experience that morning woods suddenly disappear after a relapse. After a couple days they slowly come back. I always take it as a good sign, but a very early one. I don't consider myself to be 'cured' just to have morning woods. The road to be healed, in my experience, is much longer.

Keep up the good work and my very best wishes in you recovery


Thanks man. Just glad that lack of morning wood right now is not something entirely different. And yes, little things do help a lot. Overall no PMO is not turning out hard as I thought, no pun intended. I know it's still early and I have had relapses earlier, but I am determined this time. Will keep updating here in this journal. Reaching out to this community is definitely helping out.
 

robby

Member
Day 46:

Posting here after a while. A few updates:
1. Get morning woods sometimes. Not regular, specially because I wake up to an alarm. I normally have a morning wood after I wake up normally and on bed for a few minutes after I wake up. Morning woods have been pretty decent, around 70-80% hard, and I am normally able to maintain  them for a few minutes without doing anything.
2. Have had random erections from time to time, but no wet dreams. As I said earlier, I don't normally have wet dreams.
3. Had sex once two weeks back, but it wasn't a good experience. I was 70% hard and I came in like under a minute. But I guess that's because I had no orgasms for like a 30 days before that. Have gone hard non PMO again since.
4. Have been having strong dopamine urges these days and it has been a struggle to try and control these thoughts. So thought I'll write another entry on this journal to remind myself what I am trying for and why I should keep continuing this. Really don't want to relapse again.
 
Hi, robby.

I'm 30 years old and also PIED.
I started my journal recently.

I relate to many things you said: the use of pills to get an erection, staying virgin for long years, premature "finish".

Good thing you are staying away from P. Day 46 it's a huge victory. Please, don't let your guard down. This is a treacherous addiction that attack when we are down.

I have listened many podcasts. One of them I heard: "When you are at your best, prepare for your worse". That is to say: surround yourself with protection, good habits, avoid the urges. Star a good hobby that will take away boredom and stress. This way the craving will not reach you.

my very best wishes in you recovery, robby.
 

robby

Member
Thanks man. I went through your journal too and had to comment there. All the best for your journey too.

I am trying to distract myself from the urges by being busy. I work out twice a day now, keep myself busy with work most of the day or try going out hiking or playing sports. It's hard to control those urges, but everytime I do it, it's a rewarding feeling to know that I have been successful in controlling it.

I will try to be more regular here in updating the journal because this really is helpful.
 
robby said:
Thanks man. I went through your journal too and had to comment there. All the best for your journey too.

I am trying to distract myself from the urges by being busy. I work out twice a day now, keep myself busy with work most of the day or try going out hiking or playing sports. It's hard to control those urges, but everytime I do it, it's a rewarding feeling to know that I have been successful in controlling it.

I will try to be more regular here in updating the journal because this really is helpful.

Good morning, robby.
Wonderful thing you found health habits to keep you busy and stronger. This "reward" feeling we get are a good motivator for us to keep going, keep fighting.
Please, let us know of your progress, man. This journal seems to help. Let's try keep updating whenever possible.
Wish you the best.
 
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