JediMaster
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My partner has told been telling me recently that although the talking between us has been much better mostly with addressing these addiction issues, my actions have not been following my words. That's something I have to work on. Doing the dishes when I say i'm going to do them, taking out the trash when there's two bags at the front door instead of waiting till there's five, reading the books I've said I'll read(I don't think I've ever finished a book, or at least not for years). I've been feeling something that is getting me down and putting me in a rut with my emotions but I don't know what it is. It may be that I'm only taking one class this semester because with work I couldn't slot anymore and it feels like it's going slow and that has made me feel stuck in life before like i'll never get to my career. It could be other things I just don't know. I started with a new therapist who specializes in sex addiction and anxiety so I'm hoping that will help a lot.
Anyway, I was wondering if anyone could give me advice or any ideas to make my partner feel like I'm really trying and that I do care. She has given me ideas but I want to also do something that she hasn't told me to do so it's not like i'm just doing what she's asked, I need to do more than what she asks for on a regular basis anyhow so I think it'd be good to start with things that she hasn't asked for as well as what she has. I won't take credit for the ideas but they can be a nice surprise for her. Maybe some romantic date ideas? Something nice/relaxing/romantic in the house? Anything I can do to show effort and how much I care. Even more personal things that I can change to her interests specifically.
I would really appreciate any help, even ways I can get my mind out of this "couch potato" state. I've had motivation issues since I can remember and I'm afraid they're coming back. Any advice on that would be greatly appreciated too. I love her, I love her more than anything and I want nothing but happiness for her and I want her to know that I do but I still feel like I have a lot to get through to change my mindset from what it used to be.
Anyway, I was wondering if anyone could give me advice or any ideas to make my partner feel like I'm really trying and that I do care. She has given me ideas but I want to also do something that she hasn't told me to do so it's not like i'm just doing what she's asked, I need to do more than what she asks for on a regular basis anyhow so I think it'd be good to start with things that she hasn't asked for as well as what she has. I won't take credit for the ideas but they can be a nice surprise for her. Maybe some romantic date ideas? Something nice/relaxing/romantic in the house? Anything I can do to show effort and how much I care. Even more personal things that I can change to her interests specifically.
I would really appreciate any help, even ways I can get my mind out of this "couch potato" state. I've had motivation issues since I can remember and I'm afraid they're coming back. Any advice on that would be greatly appreciated too. I love her, I love her more than anything and I want nothing but happiness for her and I want her to know that I do but I still feel like I have a lot to get through to change my mindset from what it used to be.