I wish I could've put everything in better words like you did because you are spot on.
We really need more groups where women can get together and discuss these feelings with each other I searched and searched for groups locally and they do not exist as of yet but stay tuned they are bound to exist with time , personally I could see you EB as being a good speaker.
Right now you need to deal with you and is helping us help you it's appreciated believe that! N
I totally agree that our generation is the one that is going to bring all of this to light it is horrifying and it's coming to light slowly but surely I see it on the news daily and on talk shows etc. etc.
I do believe a lot of the sexual assaults and crimes sexually related can be solved by porn Use and is only getting worse when it comes to neglect and abuse of women all the way down to criminal acts in order to satisfy do to porn- The famous last words it will never happen to me or I would never do that !!! As long as you are in an addiction those are just words.
When you're the wife of someone that you thought you knew with all of your heart and find out that they're not the person that you thought that they were anything becomes possible isn't that a shame we have to think this way.
It's a daily or even hourly occurrence and I guarantee it has got to be related but everyone is so hush-hush about their little secret as you said hobby - not only is it a hobby it is also a job full-time job.
My SO told me that it ate at him day and night constantly along with running a business that now amazingly has now doubled the amount of work and double the amount in our bank account then there was bingeing on PMO.
Trust me I checked and checked and rechecked our Bank account over and over trying to see if there was money being spent on this addiction and no there wasn't -there was time after time time time being spent on this addiction which in return took our business and slowly brought it down.
doing business takes time and concentration and when you are in a trap of PMO you are not fully concentrating on what you need to do to make a better life - but rather wasting time trying to find a better video! You know the videos with the same beginning in the same ending just a different person that don't give a shit about you, only what you got!
I'm not afraid to bring it up in person to someone and my SO has on a couple of occasions it's like he's almost proud of being able to get out of the trap ...... Because when you realize your life is going into the sewer with them ....snap you wake up if you really want to change!!!!!
Now I just have to try to figure out how a man in his mid-40s who have been watching this trash his whole entire life is all of a sudden just going to completely eliminate it, and it's thrown in everybody's face on a daily basis.
Or do we just go on with life take it day by day and hope that all this work was not a waste of time but would only be a waste of time in a failed relationship.
Because just being here on this site if I can help one person or if I piss one person off I don't care I'm getting it out there that this needs to be under control not out of control any longer.
And that it's not fair that wives and girlfriends do not have a choice whether to except or deny this behavior in their lives!!!!
If you do find a woman who excepts this type of behavior all I can do is suggest
good luck with that and proceed with caution
I guess I better get out of here I think I'm starting to get a little crazy.
Xoxo ALL !