darkUnicorn
Member
Hi friends. Peter is my name.
I am new to this forum and I seek help. Seriously.
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Gender: male.
Age: 35
Curent relationship: none/single
Kids: no
Still virgin?: technically yes
Do I consider myself attractive?: yes.
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So here is my story in chronological order.
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Age 12:
- beginning of alcohol abuse.
Age 15:
- abusing alcohol at regular basis.
- abusing porn at regular daily basis.
- abusing PC games.
- maintaining good physique with regular exercise. In no way I was looking like some nerd. From outside: alpha male. But from inside weak emotional authistic-like kid.
Age 17:
- graduating at high school. Perfect model student.
- allready psychologically dependant on alcohol.
- no real relationship. Almost no experience with girls. Virgin.
- many emotional crushes with girls. Only few turned into short relationships.
- all I was doing was dreaming about girls I knew at that time. And suffering a lot. Venting through porn.
Age 22:
- graduating at university. Again perfect model, intelligent student.
- no relationship. Dreaming about girls only.
- only one sex opportunity when I was drunk. I couldn`t make myself.
- heavilly abusing alcohol. Heavilly abusing porn. Socialising only under the influence of alcohol. Socialising while sober was almost impossible.
Age 23 - 28:
- because of serious alcohol withdrawal symtoms (depression, anxiety, panic attacks) I became codependant on benzodiazepines.
- my friends convinced me to hire a hooker. The lady was very nice. After a 15 minutes of good erection, I couldn`t continue. We end up in the bed chatting.
Age 29:
- I honestly admited to myself, that I am in a deep shit. My addiction to alcohol and benzodiazepines was serious. I couldn`t abstain more that 24 hours. Otherwise serious withdrawal symptoms came.
- nevertheless, substance abuse continues....depression worsened. All I wanted was to drink/pill myself to death.
Age 34:
The day I was born again: 24. of November 2018
- I abruptly discontinued taking antidepressants, which were prescribed to me by a psychiatrist.
- I abruptly discontinued using benzodiazepines.
- I abruptly discontinued using ethanol.
- I started rehab under medical supervision.
December 2018 - February 2019:
- repeating epileptic seisures.
- psychosis and dellirium.
Age 35: summer of 2019:
- beginning to realise, what is really going on in the real sober world.
- attending intensive substance abuse recovery program.
- no relationship. Almost no socialising. Except in the job. No parties. You know, first year of recovery.
(almost) Age 36: june 2020
- I (almost) gave up porn.
- Abstaining from psychoactive substances. I am also not using any prescribed psychoactive drugs.
- Still attending recovery program and I will for the rest of my life.
- I realised following:
-- I can maintaing erection and achieve orgasm during masturbation while utilising vivid imagination. Porn is "usefull" tool. My imagination is very vidid.
-- I am so deeply wired into the "internal" stimulae (stimulae which comes from imagination), that I am almost immune to real world external stimulae.
-- This state is a direct consequence of long term substance & porn abuse. And also a direct consequence of missing real life experience with women.
-- I don`t have a GF at the moment. I am working on my social skills, which are lacking. You see, in my age, well ... I missed the train. Teenage years are gone. I am tired. Recovery from heavy addiction is rewarding but exhausting.
What I seek is following:
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1.) I am new into this. Directions, support ... anything is appreciated.
2.) I would like to "switch" my brain to find pleasure in real life stimulation and break addiction from my imagination,
3.) I am seriously concerned, that I will fail in the first intimate intercourse opportunity with real woman. My social skills are getting better and better. I believe, that it is only a matter of time when I will seduce my first woman in this new sober life.
Many thanks my friends!
I am new to this forum and I seek help. Seriously.
---------------------------------
Gender: male.
Age: 35
Curent relationship: none/single
Kids: no
Still virgin?: technically yes
Do I consider myself attractive?: yes.
---------------------------------
So here is my story in chronological order.
---------------------------------
Age 12:
- beginning of alcohol abuse.
Age 15:
- abusing alcohol at regular basis.
- abusing porn at regular daily basis.
- abusing PC games.
- maintaining good physique with regular exercise. In no way I was looking like some nerd. From outside: alpha male. But from inside weak emotional authistic-like kid.
Age 17:
- graduating at high school. Perfect model student.
- allready psychologically dependant on alcohol.
- no real relationship. Almost no experience with girls. Virgin.
- many emotional crushes with girls. Only few turned into short relationships.
- all I was doing was dreaming about girls I knew at that time. And suffering a lot. Venting through porn.
Age 22:
- graduating at university. Again perfect model, intelligent student.
- no relationship. Dreaming about girls only.
- only one sex opportunity when I was drunk. I couldn`t make myself.
- heavilly abusing alcohol. Heavilly abusing porn. Socialising only under the influence of alcohol. Socialising while sober was almost impossible.
Age 23 - 28:
- because of serious alcohol withdrawal symtoms (depression, anxiety, panic attacks) I became codependant on benzodiazepines.
- my friends convinced me to hire a hooker. The lady was very nice. After a 15 minutes of good erection, I couldn`t continue. We end up in the bed chatting.
Age 29:
- I honestly admited to myself, that I am in a deep shit. My addiction to alcohol and benzodiazepines was serious. I couldn`t abstain more that 24 hours. Otherwise serious withdrawal symptoms came.
- nevertheless, substance abuse continues....depression worsened. All I wanted was to drink/pill myself to death.
Age 34:
The day I was born again: 24. of November 2018
- I abruptly discontinued taking antidepressants, which were prescribed to me by a psychiatrist.
- I abruptly discontinued using benzodiazepines.
- I abruptly discontinued using ethanol.
- I started rehab under medical supervision.
December 2018 - February 2019:
- repeating epileptic seisures.
- psychosis and dellirium.
Age 35: summer of 2019:
- beginning to realise, what is really going on in the real sober world.
- attending intensive substance abuse recovery program.
- no relationship. Almost no socialising. Except in the job. No parties. You know, first year of recovery.
(almost) Age 36: june 2020
- I (almost) gave up porn.
- Abstaining from psychoactive substances. I am also not using any prescribed psychoactive drugs.
- Still attending recovery program and I will for the rest of my life.
- I realised following:
-- I can maintaing erection and achieve orgasm during masturbation while utilising vivid imagination. Porn is "usefull" tool. My imagination is very vidid.
-- I am so deeply wired into the "internal" stimulae (stimulae which comes from imagination), that I am almost immune to real world external stimulae.
-- This state is a direct consequence of long term substance & porn abuse. And also a direct consequence of missing real life experience with women.
-- I don`t have a GF at the moment. I am working on my social skills, which are lacking. You see, in my age, well ... I missed the train. Teenage years are gone. I am tired. Recovery from heavy addiction is rewarding but exhausting.
What I seek is following:
---------------------------------
1.) I am new into this. Directions, support ... anything is appreciated.
2.) I would like to "switch" my brain to find pleasure in real life stimulation and break addiction from my imagination,
3.) I am seriously concerned, that I will fail in the first intimate intercourse opportunity with real woman. My social skills are getting better and better. I believe, that it is only a matter of time when I will seduce my first woman in this new sober life.
Many thanks my friends!