Rebooting at 30

Howdy fellas
I'm here from researching porn induced ED, after a frustrating sexual experience this past weekend, I'm not going to be shy which is my polar opposite, and just give you guys all the details.

I have been single for litterally years. An embarassinlgy long amount of years because I just was not ready to get back out there from losing some one I really loved. So to satisfy !y sexual urges I jerked it to porn, lots of porn usually once a a day some times a bit more some times a bit less. Over the last 6-8 months I noticed when doing my thing I would only achieve 70% or so of my erection potiental, had no staying power, and as soon as I finished my business I would be 100% flaccid before I could even blink.

I ignored these symptoms and kept at it because for personal reasons dating was just not an option for emotional reasons. So years go by of me doing my thing and fast forward to this past Sunday,

A very desirable woman starts hitting me up dropping hints and sending me some nude pics I told her to come on over if she wanted and she did. We got down to business, she's naked in my bed playing with my business but I got nothing, NOTHING but dead wood after trying like hell to get it up we just gave up and started watching a movie, now for the whole 2 hour movie she's playing with me, giving me oral but nothing. I went to the bathroom got to about 60% and took a second run at sex with her, which I pulled off with a lot of difficulty. I wasn't fully erect, I felt numb and every time we changed positions in a brief second I was almost totally soft again, never felt so bad about my confidence or ability to have sex,

At first I thought performance anxiety because this girl is intimidatingly beautiful and in my head I had great emphasis on the importance of ringing her bell as best as possible but it was a no go.

Doing some research I found this site and a few YouTube videos from the founder Gabe, and started learning about this and started a reboot the next day. Since then my penis has been pulling the ultimate scared turtle. Its small and shriveled up and short, I have had not one sexual thought since nor an urge to loom at porn, I removed all porn from my computer to remove temptation. I'm wondering how long until I start to see improvement and increase in labido again, I know it has yet to be a week but I have not even touched my penis since until tonight trying to get erect with a light grip 40-50% boner and no interest in going forward. And decided to make my first post. Please help me out here guys I'm pretty freaked out and a bit depressed about it. I'm in a reboot/ hard reset and known I can stick with not baiting but I feel as if sex is over for me, I have not had morning wood or a solid strong erection in a long time, is this sounding like PIED or just ED? I started a routine to do everything I can to increase drive and desire while getting in better shape to help my little buddy our. Please advise me what to do and if this sounds like classic PIED. I'm a bit stressed but I'm surprisingly good with no porn, no baiting, and no artificial stimulation but it hasn't been too long yet I'm just hoping I can get this back, now that I'm emotionally ready for a real relation ship I have a real dead wood situation on my hands at a young age. So any advice or tips or info I need to look into would be great, good luck to all and thanks for having me on the forums.

sounds like classic PIED to me. check yourself to a doctor if you suspect something more.

it brings laughter to me but i had similar experience with PIED and first sex after 2 years of intense PMO.

it can take 1-2 years to completely recover. you will be able to have sex sooner though. no specific timelines, just quit everything. quit even MO. GooD LucK.

Thanks man I really appreciate the support. Im for sure riding a pretty brutal flat line but its allowing me to clear my head, and so far I have noticed one big improvement in that I can sleep solidly all night without getting up to piss 3-4 times a night makes me wonder if frequent masterbation has effect on the prostate. I'm going to do everything I can do flip this into a big positive and smash some goals I've always been too distracted to do. Serious lifestyle changes not just quitting porn.

Also I see you guys using some abbreviations I don't follow such as MO PMO and a few others could someone break this down for me PMO= Porn motivated orgasm?

PMO is PornMasturbationOrgasm, it is when you are using porn to masturbate all the way to orgasm

MO is just MasturbationOrgasm, masturbating all the way to orgasm.

check this out http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=21.0

I woke up around 530 am this morning after some pornographic dreams with a pretty decent boner and just had to laugh it off because there was nothing I could do about it I don't know if that's a sign of any recovery or not but it makes me feel pretty good seeing as I'm in the flat line stage. Other dreams seem much re vivid as well.

Thinking of starting a kegel regimen does anyone have results to report on those?

Shitty night last night. Got into it fairly heavily with am old flame on why we can't be together and that hurts a good deal girl was my first love and first broken heart and first sexual partner. Texted until 1am or so and shut shut the phone off to try and sleep and fantasied about previous sexual encounters from before PIED, eventually fell asleep around 5 am then up at 7 to get to work. Feelinf pretty bad but I've got 8 days of porn free lifestyle going an without MO so im just gonna push through it all

Still riding the flatline I guess, dead penis etc etc, haven't looked at anything sexual or explicit in about 2 weeks, not tempted to either. Occasional midnite boners maybe 2-3 since I started the reboot absolutely no libido I haven't even tried for a erection yet since my first post here. Is this all normal? Sometimes doubt its PIED but then I remember my last PMO session and think it has to be because not much of a problem then maybe my brain is success fully re-wiring and this is normal process, can anyone weigh in here?

thats quite normal, 2 weeks are really very short period of time for a guy with PIED symptoms. i only start to enter the flatline after that time and it can last for months so relax and enjoy the ride.

Numez said:

thats quite normal, 2 weeks are really very short period of time for a guy with PIED symptoms. i only start to enter the flatline after that time and it can last for months so relax and enjoy the ride.

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Thanks for sticking with my thread man I do appreciate it.

Hey man,

it can really take some time but it will be worth it. I'm trying to reboot for about 18 months now, currently being 4 months pmo free. My sex life got way better, not just being able to have an erection most anytime I want to have sex, also the act itself got way more enjoyable. It's intensity and passion in a way I actually never experienced in my life.
There still are a lot of issues after this long time - porn related dreams, fantasies creeping in, trouble maintaining erections when having sex very regularly.

But no matter how long it takes for you, it will be getting better continuously.

Hey buddy. Keep learning. You are on the right path. And don't test your dick. Your BRAIN will tell you when you are ready for sex. It took me 50 days to get out of the dead-dick flatline to the point where I felt truly horny. But everyone is different. Just keep reading at yourbrainonporn.com and stay strong. NO porn or pixels. And if you are addicted to sites like Tinder or match.com or facebook, get rid of those too. They also mess with your dopamine levels. Good luck. You are doing great.

Thanks for the replies everyone, yeah imntrying to cut back on all things digital, video games, face book whatever, never got into tinder or anything else so I got that going for me lol one last habit to break.

If anyone is feeling down please laugh at my expense I went to give blood today and ended up passing out and farting super loud in front of some cute nurses and had to leave all awkward like it didn't just happen hahaha

ScaredTurtle said:

If anyone is feeling down please laugh at my expense I went to give blood today and ended up passing out and farting super loud in front of some cute nurses and had to leave all awkward like it didn't just happen hahaha

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hahahahahahahahhaa farting super loud while passed out? hahahahahahahah i love awkwardness

All I remember is drinking my water at the table before leaving and i started sweating very badly, then my vision went all weird, then my hearing was all messed up, I put my chin in my hand to hold my head up and then just remember it hitting the table really hard and I bounced back up right with a damn roaring fart. Everyone was in another room folding those free shirts they give out and one came in and asked if I was OK all i could say was why wouldn't I be but I was all loopy and sounded like i was defensive about it. I just bounced after that no way I was sticking around for any aftermath

you farted in front of the cute nurses or everyone were in another room?

i farted super loud intentionally just to feel little uncomfortable but i was passing by on the street, its TOTALLY different when you are stuck in a room with unknown people (especially cute girls) and have to face the reactions hahahahahahahaha awesome XD

Just to add my 50 cents, Turtle: I'm nearly 38, an intermittently  lifelong compulsive fapper I would say, tho' more into sexting and exchanging pix than porn per se. Been rebooting 21 weeks and have seen agonisingly slow progress, but I can't deny it's there and I'm a real skeptic, especially about internet fads and conspiracy theories.  I've gone from total penile atrophy. no midnite or morning woods and no erection with my girlf even on 50g viagra to hanging more naturally, fairly frequent nocturnal bones and satisfactory responses to a much reduced, minimal amount of Viagra when I'm getting down 'n' dirty. But it's been 5 months give or take and I'm still nowhere near total recovery, I can't 'will' an erection without the stimulus of my girlf, I need a recharge of a few days between Os and my general libido feels like it's bouncing along bottom. But there ARE improvements without a doubt. I agree with Numez, Phase and many other broken-bonered brothers here on the forum that reboots take a lot longer than the classic 90 days, especially if you're in your 30s or older and trying to reverse a decade + of dysfunctional solitary (cyber-)sexuality. Sometimes it seems an impossible dream that one will ever have total confidence in one's todger again, but if I see double the  progress in 10 months as I've seen in the last 5, the last of my natural skepticism will have been transfigured into full-blown evangelism. I've accepted a year is the bare minimum one needs to truly assess the efficacy of the reboot. But whatever happens, I'm convinced masturbation does a man more and more damage the older he gets and that there comes a time where we have to make choice between relationship OR onanism: our bodies, let alone our personality traits, can't handle both.  I know what I want: love, not a wank.

I think I'm on pretty much the same trajectory as Boa, only I've been at this longer. It really is worth sticking this out. Yeah, I don't have a dick that jumps like a 17 year old anymore, but it really is so much better than before I started the reboot when I needed strong dick pills just to get movement. So keep going, don't give up.

I'm not sure why 90 days is a magic number that keeps getting referred to. I do think it takes longer for those of us hardcore pixel addicts. However I would say that around 90 days I finally relaxed into the new groove: I was no longer counting days or obsessing over the rules and struggles of the reboot process at all. It's like it took 90 days to break the old habit and accept the new habit. And the new habit is where the recovery is. So my point is, it gets easier with time, and yes, it will take time. Cheers.

Thanks for all the support guys it really is an awesome thing you guys rock. I'm gonna stay the course andnot count days and just report progress as it comes. I need to quit obsessing over days with out this and that and just accept the new life style as a permanent change. I know there is no magic number of days to reach a cured state but we will get there if we want it bad enough.

Phase summed it up perfectly. This isn't about racking up a certain number of days to achieve a defined result and then resting on our laurels and letting an addiction take control again. It's a fundamental commitment to rid our lives of a dysfunctional ingrained behaviour, the most noticeable tho' not only effect of which was ED, but the desire for greater erectile health must be a lifelong motivation like staying free of cigs, not a point in time when a current flatline ends.

I think fapping and porn are something we all discovered at such a young age, in fact it was synonymous with the onset of adolescence, that it was our first introduction to selfmanipulation of our own neurochemistry in a selfsoothing yet ultimately disadvantageous fashion, before we tried narcotics or became responsible for our own decisions about binging in terms of diet and other recreational activities.  The reboot opens a window on how much we may have strayed into dopamine autopilot in so many aspects of our lives, it prompts selfanalysis and a deeper questioning of what processes of brain chemistry are governing our lives despite illusions of free will.

And it helps you relearn the value of actual loving relationships, that the mind and body work best in unison and sexually at their best when working in unison with the mind and body of another human being. It's always been one of mankind's perennial problems, how to avoid becoming controlled by our own tools, the victims of  our technology. Basically, we're not smart enough to outthink how smart we are! 

Thanks for all the support and info guys I appreciate it a lot, I really do.

I don't want to be the kind of dude always going on about my erections but right now I got to be that guy lol

Still flat lining, no libido, no night boners, no am wood no nothing, but I woke up last night with a very impressive pee boner which has not really been happening either, is this any indication of anything? I mean I know it does not mean I'm 100% but does that for sure rule out any physical issues? I mean it was a hell of a lot better than my last erection with a girl or porn for that matter. No sexual thoughts or dreams I can recall went into it I just woke up had to go and my drill seargent was almost 100% at attention. From what I've read its to keep from peeing in your sleep but is there anything else to it?