Can not feel anything inside vagina. Any chance to get improvement?

jon snow

Member
Hello everybody. I attempted few times to have an intercourse recently but it was just impossible. This was my first sex in life with real woman. Although I got an erected penis by hand but I could not hold it. When I entered into vagina, I could not feel any excitement. It actually felt nothing to me. I think my issue is with penis sensitivity. Does no PMO helps the penis sensitivity?
Please response me guys. there is no one I can share this misery.
 

Stevew

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http://orgasmicdiscourses.com/death-grip/

You have been masturbating too hard or/and too fast removing sensitivity. That link will help a lot! It does say buy a flesh light which i understand is expensive and somewhat akward to have if your living with parents but you can search up alternatives you can make from home.
 

jon snow

Member
Thanks for your response Stevew.
If I can abstain myself from PMO for a very long time(for example 6-12months) and then always make sex with a partner, do u think I still need a flesh light.
Which is better for recovery - abstaining from Masturbation completely or using a fleshlight sometimes!!

I actually cannot tell it a "recovery", since I never had any successful intercourse. The few first approaches(4 times) I made, I failed completely. I want to know is there any hope who can not even feel the vagina with penis if he abstains from PMO?
 

Stevew

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I'm not expert but you do need to train yourself back to feeling more sensitivity. If I was you do a good month no pmo... literally don't touch your penis. Then once a week lightly masturbate your penis for no more then 5 minutes. Make sure you do very soft slow strokes don't be tempted to do it fast/hard. I practically did this myself until i relapsed. Use lubrication when you do masturbate I think aswell that will make it even better in regards to not applying force to the penis and doing nice soft gliding.
 

Stevew

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I myself have not got a fleshlight although may consider making:
http://genius.com/discussions/41700-How-to-make-your-very-own-fleshlight-you-will-never-ever-need-a-girl-again
All you need is some rubber gloves to lube up then 2 sponges and a cup. If you live with other people just make sure you hide it ha I know I would.
 

Stevew

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If you have sex with a partner... tell her to not jack you off with her hands as well. Are you using a thick condom any chance? I have also seen a few oils going about which may help. Like man oil?
 

Ocarinustino

Active Member
People on your brain rebalanced HIGHLY recommend Shea butter. It does magic to softness and blood flow of the skin on penis.
 

sodonewithit

Active Member
Stop masturbating and it will heal.  Don't do the fleshlight, shea butter or light touching as they will just lead you back to a worse situation.  Look at it this way:  if you had never jerked off you would have a sensitive penis, right?  So really the cure is stopping, plain and simple.  It sucks but tough it out, the worst part only lasts a month and then it's better. 
 

Stevew

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''if you had never jerked off you would have a sensitive penis, right?''... yes but I think with death grip one needs to train the penis to feel softer touches. Also deathgrip can cause skin damage so something like shea butter from what i've read so far could only help.
 

Stevew

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Read this:
http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=16602.0
Man oil has shea butter in it and also other vitimins.... i may try getting it myself looks good.
 

Pr3c1se

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Nah, you don't need to "train your brain to feel softer touches"... you need to stop touching it so much.  Then your body will naturally become more responsive to stimuli.  Your body desensitizes nerve endings which get stimulated too much.  When you stop stimuling these nerves they will become more sensitive.  All you need to do is get off porn, and stop masturbating and you'll be having good sex in no time!
 

sodonewithit

Active Member
You can light touch if you wish but it's not good imo nor is a fleshlight or shea butter.  Having sex with a person is wonderful but the other ideas are risky I think.  Fleshlights are sold to porn users for a reason.....this is also a pathway repair issue with most of us.  The op might not have the same mental issues other people here do but I'd hate to have a addiction to a fleshlight compared to traditional masturbation.  During my worst days of use I was attracted to the idea of that product but now I see it as a unneeded item, in the context of this thread and site a huge red flag.

Again my thoughts, we are all free do what we wish with our manhood.
 

Stevew

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Perhaps you guys are right. Maybe using a lotion like shea butter or just moisturiser will help the skin looking and feeling better? I have seen a lot of people claiming that stuff like man 1 man oil does help (although that stuff is very expensive).
 

Camouflage

Active Member
I have been struggling with low sensitivity for the past year. I have a severe delayed ejaculation and even anorgasmia. Last summer I felt that it is impossible for me to reach orgasm during intercourse. I realized that my problems are partly caused by porn and partly by deathgrip. I bought a fleshlight last autumn, but it didn't solve the problem for me. But NoFapping has been a huge help! I am currently 51 days of no porn, no masturbation. The sensitivity of my penis has increased drastically! This weekend I had sex 3 times and I came easily every time. I am allowing myself sex with real partners, but no masturbation. I still feel that there is room for improvement, however, so my goal is 90 days no PMO.
 

jon snow

Member
Thanks everybody for your response. While people are busy with facebook, I am digging into "RebootNation". I don't know what would happen to me if I did not find this site.
You know, when I searched in google this was really shocking, I found just one treatment for penis sensitivity which is called "man1 man oil" and I think this oil is not completely dedicated to sensitivity rather its a skin care product which works as moisturizer and might be helpful to increase sensitivity. Some medical website informed sensitivity treatment is difficult and one of them just straightly said "There is no treatment for penis sensitivity".
In this scenario, I found only hope in this forum with "no PMO" concept. It sounds logical. Now its time for a 90 days chase.  My plan is to try "man1 man oil" after my 1st 90days approach since I want to see if the healing power really exists inside me.
The count down begin.........
 

Bango Skank

Active Member
Well I'm no expert and in the early days myself, but from what I have learned I would say that total abstinence from masturbation of any sort is the way to go.

Don't forget there's so much more to sex than how tightly your penis is gripped - it's about whole body sensation, sounds, smells,  words, breathing and unspoken communication. The whole point of rebooting is to eventually train your brain to use these things as triggers for increasing arousal.

Just imagine making it through a month of no PMO, maybe even two (and read what Camouflage wrote earlier for proof). You have sex with your gf/bf/spouse and find that your sensitivity is much higher than before, sex is more pleasurable. Wow, you want to do this again..! And each time you do, your brain has been rewired just a little bit in the right direction. After a few times you will be well on your way to being ADDICTED to having sex with a real person, maybe someone you care about.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I assume this is the holy grail for a large number of guys posting here - it certainly is mine. ::)
 

sodonewithit

Active Member
The month after I stopped I could hardly put my boxers on without wanting to wank the sensitivity was so different than anything I could remember(don't wank haha).  I'm now facing the polar opposite of DE when sex comes up but why complain about this. A good short bj helps but this is fairly rare in my book...sigh ;)  Anyways from my own experience and, funnely enough, from discussing this specific thread with my wife last night I'm sure that not touching is the way to heal those nerve endings. 

If one was to have this exact conversation with you over a cuppa coffee what would you honestly reply with?  There is the answer.
 

Stevew

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No real studies have been done on deathgrip nor any kind of real medical recognition has been published that I have seen. What you says make sence. But like no PMO rebooting with a real girl speeds up the process although if you do completely stop it, it will eventually get better. Then again thats the brain not the nerves. Although there may be a brain link in regards to feeling in the penis. Maybe soft touching very occasisonaly may benefit the process?
 

Stevew

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I personally went 60 off days no pmo... tried wanking slowly and as I did each time I was able to keep my erection longer etc. For me it seemed to help.. although then came the habit of wanting to increase the grip and yh...
 

qrayzHD

Active Member
I have been suffering from low sensitivity ever since i lost my libido a few years ago. The issue is not caused by a lack of vitamins and may not be caused by death grip. The cause is likely in your brain and it is directly related to porn brain changes, once you have rewired to real partners i believe you/we will get a sudden return of sensitivity.
 
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