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PresidentCoolidge
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As many of you probably saw awhile back, I posted a topic about masturbation. I had been on a 9 month reboot and finally decided to choke the chicken. Everything is great. I'm still getting morning wood, my libido is stronger, I feel more relaxed, getting better sleep, etc. No matter what religious people will tell you, masturbation is natural, healthy and completely normal. Not only does it help prevent premature ejaculation, but it has a whole host of health benefits. It allows us to understand what turns us on which, in turn, enhances our sexual experience with a partner. However, the key is that you use masturbation in a way that won't hurt you. Like everything in life that gives us pleasure, you HAVE to practice balance and discipline. Here is my personal list of healthy masturbation techniques:
1.) Stay away from Internet porn! This one is the most obvious for guys who understand pornography addiction and sexual conditioning. I think it's probably best for most of us here to not use the Internet for sexual arousal of any kind.
2.) Use first person imagination. By this, I mean that you should be the star of your fantasy; put yourself in the driver seat. Think about a woman that you find attractive and try to think about all the things you would want to do to them and all of the things you would want them to do to you. Really get creative. One of the problems with watching others have sex is the voyeurism of it, which caters our arousal to us on a silver platter. It eliminates the intimacy of sexual arousal and makes it very impersonal. If you can't get off this way, you should probably continue with your reboot...
3.) Exercise moderation and control. Obviously you shouldn't get carried away and go jerking off six times a day if you've had PIED in the past. Control yourself. I've heard that guys should masturbate 5+ times per week, but I'd say doing 1-2 MO's per day is plenty of release. Choose a time during the day where you'll have time to let your imagination run wild and you can practice holding off on orgasm to help you last longer in bed. Don't just rub one out in 10 seconds flat.
4.) Monitor your morning wood. This is just an added precaution for you guys. You should be getting morning wood regularly as a healthy young man. This is a key variable to maintaining a healthy sex drive. A lot of guys don't realize this but there are two kinds of erectile dysfunction: psychological and physiological. Porn-induced ED is a physical change in the brain. So, if you're still experiencing MW, but you have trouble in the bedroom, chances are that there is nothing physically wrong with you and you're suffering from depression or performance anxiety.
Hope this helps!
C.C.
1.) Stay away from Internet porn! This one is the most obvious for guys who understand pornography addiction and sexual conditioning. I think it's probably best for most of us here to not use the Internet for sexual arousal of any kind.
2.) Use first person imagination. By this, I mean that you should be the star of your fantasy; put yourself in the driver seat. Think about a woman that you find attractive and try to think about all the things you would want to do to them and all of the things you would want them to do to you. Really get creative. One of the problems with watching others have sex is the voyeurism of it, which caters our arousal to us on a silver platter. It eliminates the intimacy of sexual arousal and makes it very impersonal. If you can't get off this way, you should probably continue with your reboot...
3.) Exercise moderation and control. Obviously you shouldn't get carried away and go jerking off six times a day if you've had PIED in the past. Control yourself. I've heard that guys should masturbate 5+ times per week, but I'd say doing 1-2 MO's per day is plenty of release. Choose a time during the day where you'll have time to let your imagination run wild and you can practice holding off on orgasm to help you last longer in bed. Don't just rub one out in 10 seconds flat.
4.) Monitor your morning wood. This is just an added precaution for you guys. You should be getting morning wood regularly as a healthy young man. This is a key variable to maintaining a healthy sex drive. A lot of guys don't realize this but there are two kinds of erectile dysfunction: psychological and physiological. Porn-induced ED is a physical change in the brain. So, if you're still experiencing MW, but you have trouble in the bedroom, chances are that there is nothing physically wrong with you and you're suffering from depression or performance anxiety.
Hope this helps!
C.C.