BetterLife
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I am 35 years old. I must have started viewing porn in my teens. At that stage it was print media - magazines etc. PMO was a daily routine. I needed it. It was my fix. It got me through life's difficulties.
As I got older my source changed to the internet - pictures and movies. When I was single I would view it also on a daily basis. It helped me through my loneliness in my twenties and early thirties.
I am now married and my wife doesn't know that I view porn. I usually PMO once or twice a week now. It's mainly triggered by stress or loneliness. Maybe the fact that we also hardly engage in sex (due to her low sex drive) drives me to PMO.
But all things considered I have realized that PMO has not brought me lasting happiness. It brings short term pleasure but has hampered me from experiencing the true joys of life. I neglected friendships, maybe even adopted an unhealthy lifestyle because I always knew I was going to get my 'hit' at the end of the day that makes everything right.
There are a few reasons why I want to quit:
- I want to improve my karma in life. Alot has gone wrong and somehow I feel responsible for attracting negative karma either directly or indirectly through the act of viewing porn.
- I want to feel closer to my new wife (just got married last year). The act of viewing porn, I feel, is not something to be proud of and not something I can share with her. So it creates a divide since I have this secret that I do not share with her out of fear. Maybe it will bring us closer and our sex life will also improve.
- I want to cleanse my brain/mind. I feel that I can achieve so much more in life if my mind is clear.
I have tried in the past to 'reboot' with no success. My last effort was from 4-8 January 2015. The longest I have gone is about a month. Sometimes I feel like its impossible...I have spent half my life doing this...how do I move on without falling apart?
This has been a solo battle for me thus far and I am hoping to make some friends here who can help me in this journey as I am too embarrassed to engage with my existing family and friends about this problem.
My intention is to journal here. It seems safe enough. And there are like minded people who won't judge me. This will become my place of solace if I fail, and my place of reflection when I triumph. I sincerely hope and pray that I can get over this habit.
Thanks for listening
As I got older my source changed to the internet - pictures and movies. When I was single I would view it also on a daily basis. It helped me through my loneliness in my twenties and early thirties.
I am now married and my wife doesn't know that I view porn. I usually PMO once or twice a week now. It's mainly triggered by stress or loneliness. Maybe the fact that we also hardly engage in sex (due to her low sex drive) drives me to PMO.
But all things considered I have realized that PMO has not brought me lasting happiness. It brings short term pleasure but has hampered me from experiencing the true joys of life. I neglected friendships, maybe even adopted an unhealthy lifestyle because I always knew I was going to get my 'hit' at the end of the day that makes everything right.
There are a few reasons why I want to quit:
- I want to improve my karma in life. Alot has gone wrong and somehow I feel responsible for attracting negative karma either directly or indirectly through the act of viewing porn.
- I want to feel closer to my new wife (just got married last year). The act of viewing porn, I feel, is not something to be proud of and not something I can share with her. So it creates a divide since I have this secret that I do not share with her out of fear. Maybe it will bring us closer and our sex life will also improve.
- I want to cleanse my brain/mind. I feel that I can achieve so much more in life if my mind is clear.
I have tried in the past to 'reboot' with no success. My last effort was from 4-8 January 2015. The longest I have gone is about a month. Sometimes I feel like its impossible...I have spent half my life doing this...how do I move on without falling apart?
This has been a solo battle for me thus far and I am hoping to make some friends here who can help me in this journey as I am too embarrassed to engage with my existing family and friends about this problem.
My intention is to journal here. It seems safe enough. And there are like minded people who won't judge me. This will become my place of solace if I fail, and my place of reflection when I triumph. I sincerely hope and pray that I can get over this habit.
Thanks for listening