Having "unavoidable" trigger issue. Any advice?

Ocarinustino

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I have new neighbors. They are very sexually active. They are having sex very often. She moans very loud. Also when the guy reaches climax he is also extremely loud. This is triggering me a lot in many ways. It causes emotional unbalance because it reminds me of my EX to whom I still have emotional attachment to and amazing sex I had with her.  The girl moaning so passionately gives me, you know PMO, MO thoughts. Also when I hear the guy climax with so much pleasure, I imagine being him and I also get serious need for PMO, MO.

Its literally every 2nd day around 12-2 am. I know one of advices would be "go where its quiet". I tried to use ear caps but too loud still. I tried to sleep in kitchen. Nope can still hear them. The only place where I dont hear them is the fucking bathroom. But I feel like a complete idiot waking up in the middle of night,going to shitty bathroom which is freezing and staying there for half an hour hoping they are finished. "Knock on walls" didnt do much. They stop but get back to it. Im at the end of building and only I can hear them so its not building issue. I dont want to get into a fight because its not issue that I hate. Its but cause of reboot.

Problem is that I enjoy listening to it but its causing triggers to come and Im conscious about it. I am left sleepless. I am still fighting the urge but barely. Since I just started this reboot I need advice to keep PMO and MO out of question on this.

Any advice is welcome.
 

Androg

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Avoiding fantasizing is really helpful during a reboot. Sounds like that might help with this too. Have a look at this link: http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/what-about-fantasizing-during-reboot
 

now-man

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Maybe try having some headphones and music, or a meditation to listen to to drown it out while it's happening. Preserve your peace of mind and get what you're going for!
 
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