As the title suggests, I am a 50 year old man who has for more years than I care to remember have suffered from retarded or delayed ejaculation. Whether it was a milestone birthday or something else that I am not aware of I have decided to once again try and reverse my condition.
A little bit more about myself and in no particular order as I write:
In all respects I am a healthy 50 year old male, married with two boys.
I have a job that is stressful and one that I do not enjoy.
My lifestyle is comfortable and as a family we are lucky that we have pretty much all that we need.
For a long time, in fact since I have had access to the internet I have switched onto watching porn and watching in the main BDSM and S&M videos and my viewing has become more and more extreme/kinky. I have in the past prior to being married visited professional dominatrixes, so that gives you an idea that I am predominantly submissive. I have also played the dominant with a submissive female friend in the past, but stopped this relationship as it was getting out of hand.
I do masturbate whilst watching porn. I rarely masturbate with my hand only and have bought into playing with Fleshlights, electro stim, anal play and poppers. All have given me more and more intense orgasms. I also like a bit of ?home? cock and ball torture. I have recognised this is part of my problem and I need to reverse all these learned habits. Both my wife and I have been for counselling and went through the sensate technique etc all with no success. I have also been for hypnotherapy, again with no success. My wife knows of some of my fetishes and will dress to please and will use a strap on with me once in a while. We have and sometimes do watch porn together and she likes to play with her sex toys. She has no idea of my use of electro stim or poppers.
Today I have made a pledge to myself and my wife that I want to change. I have disposed of my poppers as the first act of commitment. What I am looking for is guidance on how I can get back on track and to be honest to see if I can, as I am unsure if I have the strength to do so.
A little bit more about myself and in no particular order as I write:
In all respects I am a healthy 50 year old male, married with two boys.
I have a job that is stressful and one that I do not enjoy.
My lifestyle is comfortable and as a family we are lucky that we have pretty much all that we need.
For a long time, in fact since I have had access to the internet I have switched onto watching porn and watching in the main BDSM and S&M videos and my viewing has become more and more extreme/kinky. I have in the past prior to being married visited professional dominatrixes, so that gives you an idea that I am predominantly submissive. I have also played the dominant with a submissive female friend in the past, but stopped this relationship as it was getting out of hand.
I do masturbate whilst watching porn. I rarely masturbate with my hand only and have bought into playing with Fleshlights, electro stim, anal play and poppers. All have given me more and more intense orgasms. I also like a bit of ?home? cock and ball torture. I have recognised this is part of my problem and I need to reverse all these learned habits. Both my wife and I have been for counselling and went through the sensate technique etc all with no success. I have also been for hypnotherapy, again with no success. My wife knows of some of my fetishes and will dress to please and will use a strap on with me once in a while. We have and sometimes do watch porn together and she likes to play with her sex toys. She has no idea of my use of electro stim or poppers.
Today I have made a pledge to myself and my wife that I want to change. I have disposed of my poppers as the first act of commitment. What I am looking for is guidance on how I can get back on track and to be honest to see if I can, as I am unsure if I have the strength to do so.