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Just changing a bad habit
« on: May 07, 2017, 11:43:00 AM »
Hi everybody! I'm Max, I'm 20 and I just want to change this bad habit that I have that is watching to porn. I used to watch it since I was 12 I guess and it wasn't a problem to me untill 3 or 4 months ago while I started to notice how it was affecting my mood, my relationship with women and how it drained my energies. So I decided in December 2016 to take a break from it, and for quite a month I succeeded. During that period I felt great and motivated but then after an unpleasant event (a girl rejected me) I relapsed.
From February untill now I couldn't get more than a week without porn and that dropped me down, but on Thursday things changed, I discovered the whole scientific process behind this bad habit, its negative effects and all the things concerning dopamine etc.
Now I'm on my third day without it and I hope to continue this way.

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Re: Just changing a bad habit
« Reply #1 on: May 08, 2017, 12:54:55 PM »
Day 4.

Woke up with a 70/80% morning wood. Actually I didn't have problems of erection so it doesen't matter really much to me, I wanted to change things because of how p. affects my personality.
Today I pleased myself using fantasies of my production about women I know in reality, not porn-induced fantasies.
I want to stop watching P. while M. is still ok for me as long as I do it with moderation (once a week max.) and using my own fantasies about real women.

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Re: Just changing a bad habit
« Reply #2 on: May 10, 2017, 04:37:40 PM »
Day 5

Everything went ok, no urges, had some fantasies about real women I know. In the evening I was with friends and we were watching at some funny media on a friend's smartphone and some of these medias were "funny" p. gifs. I watched some of them, then I recognized what I was watching to, so I got up and had a game at Playstation.

Day 6

Full of energies today! I did my chores, studied a little, played a soccer game with friends and watched soccer in tv. I feel like I can do anything with time and discipline.
Obviously no p. during those days.

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Re: Just changing a bad habit
« Reply #3 on: May 12, 2017, 11:00:30 AM »
Yesterday (Day 7)

The day started well, I went to my classes, did some chores but in the evening I was very stressed and I was really near to relapse, I already took my smartphone when a friend of mine ask me for hanging out, I interpretated it as a message for me saying "no, not tonight, go out and end your day with dignity" so I stopped.

Today (Day 8 )

The day started well as yesterday, I went to the offices of my university and while at home helped my father with his chores. But I was really tired because I slept really too little and that combined with stress made me searching for gratification. I was really horny and I resisted till 16pm more or less, then I relapsed.
Yes, I relapsed.. But I'm not giving up. It's better to relapse just a day in 365 than autosabotage everything for ever. I will continue what I started with some corrections. I will for sure continue not to watch p. but I will concede to myself up to 2 m. a week. Once is too little at the moment, maybe in future I'll reduce to once but for now I think 2 is better.

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Re: Just changing a bad habit
« Reply #4 on: May 14, 2017, 12:40:07 PM »
Day 1

Everything was ok, no particular urges. I felt that I was more impulsive in doing things and in speaking to people than usual, that's because of yesterday relapse.

Day 2

As yesterday everything ok. No urges, no difficulties. I think that for these initial days after the last relapse I will easily resist, the difficult will come at Day 6 or 7 I guess but this time I will go forward!

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Re: Just changing a bad habit
« Reply #5 on: May 15, 2017, 01:42:25 PM »
Day 3.

I relapsed again...

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Re: Just changing a bad habit
« Reply #6 on: May 19, 2017, 11:22:16 AM »
Ok as I usual say to myself: every failure is a step forward to success.

On Tuesday evening I restarted my reboot and everything went ok.
I understood that an important cue to me was enjoying passive hobbies, like watching football highlights or tv. So I started changing my hobbies from passive to active. Now I don't only watch sports but I also try to know more about them.

Day 2
Yesterday I pleased myself as planned with fantasies of my own production.
I planned two days a week of MO (without porn) as I wrote on the lasts posts, because I don't have ED, I just want to feel mentally sharper not looking at P.

Day 3
Today everything went ok, no urges, no stress.

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Re: Just changing a bad habit
« Reply #7 on: May 20, 2017, 11:40:27 AM »
Day 4

Also today went ok, I had some urges but I repelled them.

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Re: Just changing a bad habit
« Reply #8 on: May 21, 2017, 02:03:55 PM »
Day 5

No particular urges, I think I'm doing good.

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Re: Just changing a bad habit
« Reply #9 on: Today at 01:13:52 PM »
Day 6
Everything ok, I had some flashbacks but they pass fast.
Let's achieve week 1!