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akimotoakira
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Hello all,
I just found this website and decided to write a post about my situation.
I am a 37 years old, physically healthy, educated, middle-class man. I live in a small town in Central Europe. As far as I can judge my appearance is average and I guess my family, friends, neighbours and business partners think I am "just okay". But I am not okay at all. I have never been able to reach the level of sexual intimacy in my relationships, so I am still virgin. Yes, a 37 years old male virgin. I have a little experience in kissing, hugging, touching girls, because I dated 3 girls in my life. But I always were too shy and embarrassed to initiate anything more intimate. And these relationships lasted only for a few months.
My relationship with porn is a more lasting one. I've been masturbating since I was 13. And I have been using porn since I was 18. Even though it means almost 20 years, I don't think I am an addict. If I decide not to watch porn, I can live without it for several weeks. Probably married guys around me watch porn more frequently.
I would be grateful if you'd answer some of my questions.
- First of all... how unusual do you think my situation is? I feel kinda isolated, outcasted from society if I think that maybe I'm the only 37 years old virgin in a 60 mile circle or so... Am I beyond hope?
- Is it a good idea to lose virginity to a sex worker? I find it slightly morally questionable... but maybe I would feel better to think of myself as "a 37 years old guy, single, once paid for sex" than "a 37 virgin weirdo". (Prostitution is legal in my country.) Moreover I don't think normal dating with normal girls would work anymore without more experience. Women expect guys in my age to be quite experienced... I would not blame them to say no to a 37 years old virgin.
- Do you think my situation is the consequence of watching porn and masturbation?
- What should I do to fix my life?
I just found this website and decided to write a post about my situation.
I am a 37 years old, physically healthy, educated, middle-class man. I live in a small town in Central Europe. As far as I can judge my appearance is average and I guess my family, friends, neighbours and business partners think I am "just okay". But I am not okay at all. I have never been able to reach the level of sexual intimacy in my relationships, so I am still virgin. Yes, a 37 years old male virgin. I have a little experience in kissing, hugging, touching girls, because I dated 3 girls in my life. But I always were too shy and embarrassed to initiate anything more intimate. And these relationships lasted only for a few months.
My relationship with porn is a more lasting one. I've been masturbating since I was 13. And I have been using porn since I was 18. Even though it means almost 20 years, I don't think I am an addict. If I decide not to watch porn, I can live without it for several weeks. Probably married guys around me watch porn more frequently.
I would be grateful if you'd answer some of my questions.
- First of all... how unusual do you think my situation is? I feel kinda isolated, outcasted from society if I think that maybe I'm the only 37 years old virgin in a 60 mile circle or so... Am I beyond hope?
- Is it a good idea to lose virginity to a sex worker? I find it slightly morally questionable... but maybe I would feel better to think of myself as "a 37 years old guy, single, once paid for sex" than "a 37 virgin weirdo". (Prostitution is legal in my country.) Moreover I don't think normal dating with normal girls would work anymore without more experience. Women expect guys in my age to be quite experienced... I would not blame them to say no to a 37 years old virgin.
- Do you think my situation is the consequence of watching porn and masturbation?
- What should I do to fix my life?