i am trying to get rid of porn from last 2 years but my highest streak has been 2 months.i have ocd,social anxiety and paranoia. i am trying to get rid of porn bcoz of my social anxiety today i had sexual thoughts of a girl than i sat on pc started incognito mode and watched porn.i have no sexual experience what should i do to be porn free forever
what should i do
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bob
Respected Member
You really should ask this question in the Journals portion of the site. That is, start your own journal and do the following. These are three[list type=decimal]
[*]Learn as much as you can about the brain and how it deals with porn.
[*]Post frequently in your recovery journal. Like you mentioned, it helps when you are one within a community.
[*]Post in others journals as your journey can be helpful to others.
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Peace
[*]Learn as much as you can about the brain and how it deals with porn.
[*]Post frequently in your recovery journal. Like you mentioned, it helps when you are one within a community.
[*]Post in others journals as your journey can be helpful to others.
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Peace
It sounds to me like you need a mental shift. Think about the mindset you are approaching porn with; do you view it as something you are giving up? If so I'd say that's the issue. I encourage you to take the time in figuring out your mindset towards porn and what you need to do to change it in order to be successful.
what i have to do change a mindset to give up porn.btw i relapsed today as i was alone didnt have lunch today reached home had some food as i was alone and watched porn.tomorrow i am trying to do exercise as iam trying to build exercise habit and also meditation.hopefully this will help me to overcome porn.
yesyes1234
Active Member
SLAA or a therapist is the most effective. Something on a weekly basis where you are accountable to other people. It makes a huge difference
i ask my phyciatrist about addiction to porn.he said that i am not addicted to porn.today also i relapsed i binge to porn for two hours and i didnt went to work also.i dont know what to do.today i dont have motivation to work but just to watch porn.i was thinking of staying away from internet i dont know may be that might help.may be i should stop using internet for 90 days.please guys reply as i need help.
bob
Respected Member
Stop,
I would recommend looking for another psychiatrist. They may not think you are addicted to porn or they may think it is another classification of compulsion but you know (and we do too) that you have a problem. Hey we all do. I would try and find a councilor (wouldn't have to be a shrink) that at least is aware of this problem. You need confirmation that you are struggling and have someone to verbally discuss this problem.
We are thinking about you and hope you all the best. We have ALL been there and we know what it is like. I use to masturbate so much that I felt physically ill. I didn't realize that I was so depleted of dopamine that my pleasure pathways were shutting down. Not sure if that is the clinical explanation but I felt the symptoms and it wasn't fun.
Please, try and find someone else to talk to. Even if you continue with this person, look for someone else too.
Peace
I would recommend looking for another psychiatrist. They may not think you are addicted to porn or they may think it is another classification of compulsion but you know (and we do too) that you have a problem. Hey we all do. I would try and find a councilor (wouldn't have to be a shrink) that at least is aware of this problem. You need confirmation that you are struggling and have someone to verbally discuss this problem.
We are thinking about you and hope you all the best. We have ALL been there and we know what it is like. I use to masturbate so much that I felt physically ill. I didn't realize that I was so depleted of dopamine that my pleasure pathways were shutting down. Not sure if that is the clinical explanation but I felt the symptoms and it wasn't fun.
Please, try and find someone else to talk to. Even if you continue with this person, look for someone else too.
Peace
stopporn said:
Unfortunately porn addiction hasn't gained much traction in the medical realms so it isn't taken seriously by many professionals. But it doesn't matter what they say, it matters what you feel. You know you have a problem because you can feel its effects on you. Take whatever steps you need for you to succeed.
mousemat1
Well-Known Member
When porn images pop into your head, acknowledge that they are there and go and do something to distract yourself. Make a coffee. Have a glass of water. Go out for a walk. Talk to somebody. Anything that will distract your mind.
We have developed a porn habit (or addiction). We can develop new, better habits.
Good luck.
We have developed a porn habit (or addiction). We can develop new, better habits.
Good luck.
bob
Respected Member
mousemat1 said:
I am dealing with this myself. I need to realize that porn is a crutch that I have used to help myself feel good. It instantly removes the pain but does so at a high price. Realize that you need to come up with some healthy alternatives to this self medication method.
We are together and with you as you work through this struggle.
Peace
bob
Respected Member
Its a big deal. Just realize where you want to be and what you want to do. Call it a lapse. Not a relapse. Remember, you brain has been hyjacked to make you fell this way. These are feelings. Just feelings. Incredably strong feelings. Feelings like you are going to die. But, your not.
I know exactly how you feel. I couldn't imagine going more than 2 days without m. Just didn't think I could make it without going insane.
I calculated that I have m?ed every day for the past 45 years. Considering some days I went on for HOURS and other days I did it MULTIPLE times a day I figure this is a conservative estimate. VERY CONSERVATIVE. Now, figuring on 10 min per session it looks like this:
45 years x 365 days x 10 min / 60 min in a hour / 24 hours in a day = 114 days of continuous masturbation.
That is a lot of time jerking off.
This is not a badge of honor. Nor do I shame myself. Neither is productive But, even with this history, I have reached over 90 days without pmo, almost 30 without m or mo.
It took me a long time to get to this point. And it hasn?t been easy. But, I am not dead. It didn?t kill me. It was difficult. It hurt. But I survived. I am still alive.
You can do this to.
You have to be committed. You have to want it. And you have to work on it but success is possible. RN helps. YBOP (book and website) helps. And talking to others, wife, councilor, RN buddies, and yes even confessing to special friends and close relatives helps. In fact, I learned some struggle with the same addiction.
Do I still have thoughts about it. Sure. But I am moving forward.
So, long story short, journal about your successes, your challenges, and your milestones. And, remember, you never fail unless you stop trying.
We are with you. We have been there. We understand. We don?t want either of us to go back.
Peace
I know exactly how you feel. I couldn't imagine going more than 2 days without m. Just didn't think I could make it without going insane.
I calculated that I have m?ed every day for the past 45 years. Considering some days I went on for HOURS and other days I did it MULTIPLE times a day I figure this is a conservative estimate. VERY CONSERVATIVE. Now, figuring on 10 min per session it looks like this:
45 years x 365 days x 10 min / 60 min in a hour / 24 hours in a day = 114 days of continuous masturbation.
That is a lot of time jerking off.
This is not a badge of honor. Nor do I shame myself. Neither is productive But, even with this history, I have reached over 90 days without pmo, almost 30 without m or mo.
It took me a long time to get to this point. And it hasn?t been easy. But, I am not dead. It didn?t kill me. It was difficult. It hurt. But I survived. I am still alive.
You can do this to.
You have to be committed. You have to want it. And you have to work on it but success is possible. RN helps. YBOP (book and website) helps. And talking to others, wife, councilor, RN buddies, and yes even confessing to special friends and close relatives helps. In fact, I learned some struggle with the same addiction.
Do I still have thoughts about it. Sure. But I am moving forward.
So, long story short, journal about your successes, your challenges, and your milestones. And, remember, you never fail unless you stop trying.
We are with you. We have been there. We understand. We don?t want either of us to go back.
Peace