The first success

marco_60

Active Member
I am 57yo, and this is a not secondary detail. Today I scored a first significant success since I started a hard reboot, 63 days ago: I made love three times. But before arriving at that, it is important to know how and why I decided to start the hard reboot.
I am divorced since 9 years, and during these years I did my best to build stable relationships. My last attempt was also the most devastating: I had a relationship with a woman whom I deeply loved and respected. She lives in a different town, thus our meetings were rare. Mainly for this reason, I continued to abuse of P, abundantly available and free over the net. Over New Year eve we spent four nights together, and all these nights I failed miserably to reach even the minimum erection. Note: like an idiot I spent hours every day before her arrival doing PMO, I was really addicted, even to the detriment of my job.
No wonder that after this experience my now ex-gf liquidated me with a couple of short emails. Maybe she was right, I do not blame her: in any case she did not even tried to ask why I had changed. But it is ok: obviously it was mostly me who wanted this relationship. I do not know, we do not listen each other since those days.
I was deeply blessed and felt humiliated. I started immediately to look over the internet and fell on this Forum. Reading stories similar to my own I found plausible the suggestion about the neurological mechanism of PIED, and decided to follow the hard reboot (no PMO, no touch to alleviate desensitization). Very soon I started to have again morning woods, which I had lost long time before. Although it should have lasted 90 days according to the suggestions given here, I had this opportunity of making sex and I decided to try. I had only fears: fears of failing, of collecting another failure after the four consecutive ones of almost two months before. Instead, all three times I succeeded to get erections and the first and third time also to complete with ejaculations. The first erection was not complete, and I had a PE. The second time I had a solid erection but without E, and the third time I was almost normal. The second time it was my partner who insisted, and I did not want to delude her and I accepted, although all three times (and even now) I was not sure that I could have succeeded.
Despite the fact that these can be regarded as three successful experiences, I will continue the hard reboot now until the end, after having agreed with my (girl)friend (we are not in love, but we are good friends and we like each other). However, the bottom lines are two: 1) Reboot works even for a rather old man like me, 2) I have no sexual or physiological problems. Although 2) only matters to me, 1) is good message for all of us, particularly for mature men.
 

KW1989KW

Active Member
Congratulations on the success! Success stories of any kind can be enough motivation for both older and younger. Keep up the good work!

My Best,

ImOnMyWay
 

marco_60

Active Member
Yesterday (day 73 after the beginning of my own hard reboot) I had another full intercourse. This time the hard erection lasted longer, and I reached since the beginning 100% of hardness. After the first ejaculation we spent more time in bed, cuddling each other: it was exciting, but I did not get hard a second time. Thus, I do not feel being 100% recovered. Yet, I can tell everybody that hard reboot seems to have worked, for me at least.
 

marco_60

Active Member
I am happy to confirm that I had again sex two days ago, day 117 after the beginning of reboot, thus I now feel more and more confident in my ability to have a complete relationship  :) . I had a very long and heavy PIED until the end of the past year, and now that I had many normal intercourses and thus I can regard myself on the very good path I discover that I have some problems: for instance after the first orgasm it takes me a long time , more than 90 minutes, before I again get hard. However I am 58 yo.! A lower level of sexual activity is a natural side effect at my age. However, now I can confidently start again looking for a stable relationship  :) , the black times have gone.

The bottom line is then: YES, reboot works  :D ! In any case it definitely improves sexual ability. Once the virtual porn has been erased from our brains we are up and ready again to be normal human beings  :) .
 

Alex48

Member
How good it is to read stories like yours. I definitely think it's successful. Personally I do not think you're very mature, but it's good to know that age is not an excuse hehe. Also, wait an hour and a half after O to start again, I would say that even at 25 I did hehe. It sounds like you really were completely reconnected.
Congratulations! Very inspiring!!!
 

KW1989KW

Active Member
Marco60,

Keep up the good work. Happy for you!

It's amazing how similar my experience is with my new GF to your story at first. We made love three times in one night.  :D Have not done this in several years. The first time I was beyond nervous and lost my erection, but it came back and was able to O. The second time I was much better and was able to sustain an erection much longer. The third time I decided to focus on just her and her pleasure. I felt amazing even without O'ing. Had an erection the entire time without fail. This is what it is supposed to be like. And to be honest with everyone, these sessions feel as if they are much longer than they really are. Maybe 10 minutes at best. Its the foreplay and experience before and after that's just as amazing. Do I still have anxiety over him working sure. I really want to please my GF more than anything. It's funny how this reboot is about us fixing our problem, but it has also taught me to not be selfish when it comes to my partner.

Hope this helps,

ImOnMyWay
 

marco_60

Active Member
Almost one year after the first significant success I feel the moral duty to post a short update.
Many things happened to me during the pas eleven months, and not all of them are pleasant.

I am now 58 y.o. On May 5th, past year, I suffered a heart attack. I realized almost immediately what it was, and this circumstance has allowed me to minimize the damages to my heart to a minimum, doctor said. Yet, I spent 28 days in the hospital, and I have now two "stents" implanted in my coronary arteries.
Almost immediately M.D.s reassured me that this unhappy event would have not had a significant impact on a reasonable sexual activity, and many months after I can confirm that they were right. The first weeks after I came back home I was not having any sexual intercourse: I was indeed too worried about myself and very cautious also about any sort of physical activity. Today I feel much more confident with myself, and I have a normal and very satisfying sexual life. In fact, about one month ago I met a woman who is now my girlfriend, and these are the good news (for me, of course). It was since I divorced, ten years ago, that I missed a complete relationship which is not just based on physical attraction, but where instead sex is so beautiful because based on mutual love.
The only problem I have is the lack of ejaculation. I have normal erections, lasting long and without the help of any drugs (I never used anyhow, even before the heart attack...): yet I can not have the happy end. My gf does not seems worried because of this, and I decided to wait and see. Maybe I should instead try to do something about it?

 
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